The truth is, most people are going to settle for an OK life.
Settling for an unfulfilling job, or for a relationship that’s just so-so has become the norm. People settle because it’s comfortable.
People settle out of fear.
I know change is scary. But you know what’s also scary? Looking back 20 years from now on your life and having regrets. Wishing you would have taken more chances, done whatever it is that you wanted to do; but you were too worried what other people would think or say.
One of my favorite quotes about taking chances on yourself comes from Jim Carrey’s famous commencement speech at the 2014 Maharishi University of Management.
Here he said: “Your need for acceptance can make you invisible.” “Risk being seen in all of your glory.”
“So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality. What we really want seems impossibly out of reach and ridiculous to expect, so we never dare to ask the universe for it. I’m saying that I am the proof that you can ask the universe for it.”
He then goes on to tell a tale about his father who was also a talented comedian, but didn’t believe that being a comedian was a practical choice. So he chose the more conservative path as an accountant. But when Jim was 12 years old his dad lost his seemingly steady job, and everything began to fall apart for his family.
“I learned many great lessons from my father–not the least of which is that you can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”
The brilliant truth in this speech will always give me chills.
Jim’s story is proof that life isn’t meant to be lived in our comfort zone. The comfort zone is a place where we will never grow or experience all the unbelievable opportunities life has to offer us. It keeps us from living up to our full potential.
I know how terrifying this can feel. Trust me, I’ve been there too. But I’ve fought through that fear and done it anyway. It’s an intimidating journey I plan on experiencing my entire life.
4 years ago, I managed to uproot my life, and turn it upside down! I quit my first job in TV Production and moved to Italy to teach English in an attempt to press the “refresh” button.
I wasn’t sure what career I wanted to try next, but I knew I needed a change.
Being alone in a foreign country was not all rainbows and butterflies. There were times when I felt homesick and lonely. There were also times when I felt like, holy sh*t am I really doing this right now?
However, I knew that this is what it felt to be out of my comfort zone. I needed to embrace this discomfort and understand this was an important step in the process. I took the fear as a sign that I was doing something right, and kept moving on anyways.
Looking back on my time in Italy, I achieved some pretty amazing things, I:
- received a masters level certification for teaching English
- got a job offer and moved again to another part of Italy to teach
- paid rent and made a living for myself
- figured out public transportation on my own
- made new friends from a different culture than mine
- ultimately created a new life for myself
I’m pretty proud of that.
I have friends that are still shocked by some of the chances I’ve taken over the years, and I guess I can understand where they are coming from. As they’ve climbed the corporate latter in their careers with steady growing income, I’ve been around the world and back trying to blaze my own path.
From an outside perspective, It can seem pretty shocking. They tell me I must have been fearless to do this.
This kind of makes me laugh, because my intent was never to shock other people into thinking I was fearless. I was only listening to my instincts, which were telling me I needed to create a life that I loved and not settle for anything less. And I was scared the entire time.
The truth is, most of the time the only thing holding you back, is you. We tell ourselves we can’t do it, we think of all the things that could go wrong. All the while never considering what could actually go right.
The world did not end, I didn’t fall flat on my face, I didn’t care what anyone thought about me. I was merely living my life.
To date, this was the ballsiest thing I’ve ever done. But anytime I feel like I can’t do something, I remind myself that I was able to move to Italy by myself, without speaking any Italian, and find my way. It reminds me that I am capable of more than I ever thought possible.
This experience gave me the confidence to believe I could do anything if I put my mind to it. It reminds me every day that If I’m not happy, I can change it.
Sometimes you have to take that big leap of faith and know there is something better waiting for you on the other side.
Life is too short to settle for OK. We get so caught up in living up to someone else’s standards and playing it safe that we forget to live. It takes serious balls to decide that you want your life to be better than OK.
Life is short and nobody is getting out alive anyway, so you might as well live it how you want.
P.S– if you’re looking for a little extra motivation to take that leap of faith, this book is incredibly thought provoking and inspiring! It’s the reason I started this blog in the first place.
With Love Always Xx,
LIFE’S TOO SHORT NOT TO HAVE BALLS