When we were kids we used to dream about being an adult. And then once we become adults, all we want to do is turn back the clock…
It’s interesting looking at age from my perspective now — a woman dating a man 15 years my senior. Age has become a lot less important to me than it used to (and I’d love to hear from others who feel the same way).
Being in a relationship with someone who’s older has truly opened my eyes to the misconceptions and unjust fear we all have when it comes to our age.
It’s taught me a lot about what to expect as I get older. But, maybe not in the way you might think…..
FOR STARTERS, AGE IS JUST A NUMBER
But I’ll be honest…. when I first started dating my boyfriend, I wondered if it was possible to actually have something in common with someone who was 40?
How could someone that age really understand me or what I’ve been through?
But this fear quickly faded away, faster than I could say the sentence out loud!
We actually hit it off immediately, and I was surprised at how natural it felt. As our relationship has grown over the years, the old saying still rings true: age is just a number.
Looking back, it was silly of me to assume that a slight age difference could really make two people from different planets. I love him for the person that he is, and vice versa (at least I hope).
It reminds me that when I turn 40, I will still be the same person deep down that I always was.
Turning 30, 40, or 50 or whatever your “scary age” is does not mean that you are no longer YOU! You’ll still know how to have fun, you will keep your sense of humor and wits about you. Age is not a defining factor.
People are people first; age should not be a characteristic or a category we place people in.
It’s also important to note that just because we are growing up does not mean the excitement is over. Life could still have some pretty amazing things in store for you.
And just in case you need a little motivation, here are 24 people who didn’t succeed, or make a major impact, until they were in their 40s.
YOU’RE ONLY AS OLD AS YOU THINK YOU ARE
Right now I have a lot of friends turning 30. But it seems like for the last 5 years, all everyone’s been talking about is how ‘old‘ they are!
It’s funny when you think about it right? Your 20s are portrayed as the years when you are ‘young’ and free, but we seem to spend the last 5 years of our 20s morning the next phase to come. (Of course, I don’t agree with the idea that your 20s are all they’re cracked up to be…. but that’s for a different post)
But isn’t it sad that we can never just enjoy our age, or our weight, or whatever it is without striving to be something different, or something ‘better’?
In fact, if I had a dollar for every time I heard one of my friends say “you guys, we’re getting old“, I’d be a homeowner in the suburbs with my Bernese Mountain Dog by now (my dream, BTW).
It’s also one of my favorite things to watch my boyfriend’s face when my friends complain about turning THIRTY in front of him. They always look at him and say “Oops, sorry Damyon” (haha).
My point is this: is it possible to just enjoy the present without getting so caught up in how old we think we are? As easy as it can be to get caught up in it, it’s really just a waste of energy.
Also, I truly believe that if you say you’re old, then you trick your brain into thinking you’re old. And then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.
When we are much further down the road, we’re going to wish we spent less time worrying and complaining about our age, and more time enjoying the journey instead!
STOP USING AGE AS A REASON WHY YOU CAN’T DO THINGS
This is EXACTLY why I have always loved Kris Jenner, evil genius and all. Despite what you may think of her and the rest of her family, you have to admit, when it comes to living it up, KJ knows how to do it right!
She wears what she wants to wear, goes out and does whatever she wants to do and she doesn’t pay attention to what people think a “woman her age” should be doing. I think that is pretty awesome.
You can tell she really doesn’t care about what others think about her, and I totally give her props for that.
It’s such a bummer when people write themselves off after a certain age.
People are afraid of being judged. But WHO CARES what other people think?
And for the most part, it’s probably only in your head anyways.
When I see someone out laughing and dancing with their friends all I think to myself is- good for them!
I have NEVER ONCE thought, isn’t she a little too old to be doing that?
And in case you need a little more motivation, think about the 94 year old woman who went skydiving on her birthday.
The only thing putting limitations on what you can or cannot do is YOU!
Life is short, we shouldn’t be spending the whole time obsessing about something that doesn’t even matter.
There are examples all around of us of people who break these ‘age stereotypes’, and they are the ones doing it right!
I’d love to hear your experiences with age and growing older! We can all learn from each other!
Love Always, xoxo C.