Have you ever been so stressed out, that you actually start to stress about being stressed?
Once we become stressed about one thing, doesn’t it feel like all sorts of other problems seem to pile themselves on? Great, like we weren’t already overwhelmed enough.
And the thing is, most of us probably know that we’re not at our best when we’re stressed.
We don’t make rational decisions, and small things can get blown way out of proportion. So then we start feeling bad about the way we’re acting…. which in turn, causes more stress (ugh)!
It sucks feeling this way. Feeling helpless as this unwanted state of mind gets the best of us.
So what’s a person to do when they feel completely overwhelmed and don’t even know where to start?
Well, here’s some pretty awesome advice I’ve received to help me pull in the reigns when I start to go down that rabbit hole….
1. YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR STRESS LEVEL
Oftentimes, I think we forget that we have a lot more control over our emotions than we think we do.
As the stress piles on and we feel like we need to grab more paper to continue our to do list, has it ever occurred to you that maybe you don’t have to do everything you’re putting on that list?
For example, if trying to keep your house perfect while living with children or your significant other is driving you nuts, then maybe you can simply choose not to. Wouldn’t you rather be a little bit more relaxed rather than constantly running around in an attempt to have a perfectly dusted shelf or an empty laundry hamper?
Or if you find yourself stressed out because you have a million places to be and on top of that you’re trying to figure out when you’re going to have time to stop at the store and pick up groceries ….. hello pizza delivery night!
Seriously, it sounds so simple, but we forget to help ourself out when we’re under stress.
Because remember….. your brain is not functioning normally right now and it’s playing little tricks on you. It’s trying to convince you that these little things are actually a way bigger deal than they really are.
I know what it feels like to be so overwhelmed where even an extra trip to the grocery store can be the straw that breaks the camels back– and causes an emotional breakdown.
So save yourself the misery and let go of the things that don’t absolutely have to get done, and allow yourself to take short cuts from time to time.
2. REMIND YOURSELF THAT YOU’RE ONLY HUMAN
I believe in the power of positive thinking. I understand that life is 10% what happens to us, and 90% how we react. And I also know that negative thoughts only attract more negative thoughts.
However, with all that being said….bad days still exist.
Sometimes, there’s a lot on our plate, and you know what? We’re freaking human.
The worst thing I used to do to was actually get upset with myself for being down. Being stressed or even a little negative started to feel like a failure. Like I wasn’t living up to the type of person I was trying to be.
I was talking to a friend recently who understood this internal dilemma. She told me that when this happens she gives herself a full day to be upset. When she does this, she lets herself go through all the emotions and validates her feelings.
Allowing ourselves to be human and have bad days gives her the momentum she needs to push forward.
It’s OK to have a bad day, but don’t let that day define what the next will be. Let it all in and then start with a clean slate tomorrow!
3. ASK FOR HELP
Romantic right? But I’m sure it take a lot of stress and pressure off of their relationship.
When you’re in a bind, don’t forget that you have the option of asking family and friends if they can help you out.
Or if you’re not comfortable asking people you know, remember that we live in a world with an app for pretty much anything.
Need help saving money? There’s an app for that. Want to lose a little weight? There’s an app for that too.
Not only does leaning on others (or technology) take a little weight off your shoulders, it can also provide you with support and understanding from others who are going through the same thing.
Just a reminder that if there’s something you’re really struggling with, there is so much help available to you at your fingertips that it will probably make your head spin! It’s just up to you to take the first step and reach out for help.
You’re probably in control of some of the things stressing you out. Being human means being stressed out, and there’s nothing wrong with it (as long as it doesn’t last too long). And seeking help could solve a problem you’ve been stressed out about for years in like, 5 minutes!
Most importantly, take care of yourselves…. you’re doing the best you can and I think you’re pretty awesome!